If your January is Off To a Wobbly Start –  Try This

How’s your January going? If Your New Year Resolutions Are Not Quite Going To Plan Don’t Despair

First off, the 1st January is New Year’s Day in the old Gregorian calendar which ignores the lunar and solar cycle. TherealNew Year’s day, if you’re taking into consideration the sun and stars, is actually 22 January (it changes slightly every year). Phew – you get to have a redo if …

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Got Meditation? (Tools for the Holidays)

A few strategies for the holidays:

Make a holiday week look as similar as possible to a non holiday week. Meaning if you usually exercise 3 x a week, then go into the holiday week with the intention of exercising 3 x a week. If you meditate or journal a couple of times a week, keep doing that.

Stick to what’s a “normal” amount …

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Couples Work As A Fast-Track to Psychological Growth

Couples therapy is fascinating. If you sit with couples, as I do, you start to attune not to the content (who said what, who dropped the ball, whose libido is too high or too low) and more to the energetic patterns that keep replaying over and over again. It becomes really obvious that the couple is actually replaying one core dynamic or …

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Can Introversion Be An Asset?

For years I related to my introversion as an inconvenience I had to kind of “manage”, a trait that was a bit of a hindrance, but also surmountable. I definitely trained myself to be much more extroverted – it seemed obvious to me that being one of those people who is happy to “put themselves out there” worked better in most settings. Reading …

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How To Move Through Social Anxiety

A month or two ago I was skiing with my two young kids and a ski instructor. We were at a chairlift and had to divide into pairs. I remember a slight contraction – how was this going to work and would I be navigating a meltdown. I watched in marvel as my six year old daughter trotted off happily …

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How To Remedy The Exhaustion of Hustling and Striving

It feels like we’re an era where the message is we can be anything we want to be if we just do the work and cultivate the right mindset.  It’s the mindset of Thomas Edison’s “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work.”  And there’s a lot of coaches and therapists out there working really hard to make sure we’re …

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